Hello to all:

Heres is a long boring background about me:

Very new to this sort of thing so bare with me....
I was born and raised in Oklahoma so I'm a big time Sooner fan "Boomer", but I also love to travel.

I went to Southeastern State University and studied Aviation Management and Safety. I also went to Flight school for OU and was certified as a Commercial Pilot, Flight and Instrument Instructor. Right now I work as an Aeronautical Design Specialist were I oversee a region of the United States Airspace by amending and developing instrument flight procedures.

I feel very blessed with the success thats been given to me at such an early age and by no means do I take it for granted. I try to live life to the fullest and work hard to keep my future bright and entertaining....

I cant wait to find somone to share my life with....man will that ever happen?
Need to find some local places to go and meet up with you all


Thanks

Bryan

Welcome Bryan,

Sounds like you are a hard worker.... it may be time to get out and play now that your career is established.

Good luck!

Good luck - when you are ready, it will happen. Some of the swinging singles can probably give you some ideas of where to meet people.

I think Karried made a very good point.

Ask your friends to help out. If your male friends are married asked their wives to set you up. Women love to play match maker - so let them.

You should consider an online service like Match.com. It's worked out great for a lot of people that I know, and I don't think it carries the social stigma that it once did.

I never got the whole social stigma thing. Guess because I've been married so long, but just never understood how "we met online" was even a hair different than we met 'in a bar' 'at a disco' 'at a rave'' 'public library' or a 'save the whatever de jour'

I never got the whole social stigma thing. Guess because I've been married so long, but just never understood how "we met online" was even a hair different than we met 'in a bar' 'at a disco' 'at a rave'' 'public library' or a 'save the whatever de jour'

Or that old favorite: "I woke up next to her one morning after a party." :LolLolLol

I think it is hard to meet the right kind of people in OKlahoma City. When I go out with friends its usually to bars and most of the guys I run into are sloppy drunk and looking for the bimbo type. I am a successful 26 year olf femaile looking for the rel deal, so I am with you, where do we meet them?

I think it is hard to meet the right kind of people in OKlahoma City. When I go out with friends its usually to bars and most of the guys I run into are sloppy drunk and looking for the bimbo type. I am a successful 26 year olf femaile looking for the rel deal, so I am with you, where do we meet them?

Don't go to bars, for a starter!

I'm no expert but figure out what kind of man you are interested in and go where they hang out. I expect it is a little like deer hunting. Find out where they hang out. Keep it a secret. Set out some corn and then swoop in. <vbg> For someone like me, finding the right kind of guy wouldn't be that hard in Oklahoma. I like the down to earth, sensible type. But you know how it goes. Feast or famine. Just when you find one that looks interesting, they suddenly swarm on you and you've got decisions to make. Then you go through a dry spell. Don't worry - just like that, Mr. Wonderful can show up, usually when it is damned inconvenient. Every serious relationship I've ever had showed up when I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. I suspect not being needy is what drags in the bucks. Works just like corn.

Good luck.

I think it is hard to meet the right kind of people in OKlahoma City. When I go out with friends its usually to bars and most of the guys I run into are sloppy drunk and looking for the bimbo type. I am a successful 26 year olf femaile looking for the rel deal, so I am with you, where do we meet them?

If you go to church, at church. Or volunteer for some public service or political grass roots organization. But then a lot of people there may not be single. So don't cut bars short. Just be more judgemental about the guys who go to such places. They can't all be drunken jerks. A woman I know met her husband in a bar. By the way, if a guy asks you to dance in a bar, you won't get anywhere by saying "no".

If he asks you to dance, by all means do so, because once you are married, dancing is over, baby!!:ohno:

If he asks you to dance, by all means do so, because once you are married, dancing is over, baby!!:ohno:

Yeah, I've heard that from so many women. What I don't get is why y'all decide ya don't wanna dance with your hubbys anymore once you get married to them?
:sofa:



All keeding aside, my lovely never much cottoned to dancing in the first instance, nor to heaven on earth aka boiled shrimp. But hey, I gots a flaw or two as well.
Bottom line, she settled, I married up, in a big way, and we got past it.
:LolLolLol

Dancing is not a big deal at our house. Now, if the man decides he ain't cooking nomore, I will cry like a baby. He's a helluva cook.

And why do so many women say no to a guy who asks them for a dance? I was always tormented by that when younger.

And why do so many women say no to a guy who asks them for a dance? I was always tormented by that when younger. It's a man-woman power play. Might mean something or not. Don't be scared. I must say, I was never scared of the "finer" sex. They are complicated but, Fun.. Murph

Yeah the Bar thing gets old. I haven't really met that many girls that I wanted to date long term from a bar. Its a good social setting but a lot of times your not going to meet the real person through their drunken fascade.

And I am really screwed. Because I can't dance. I have stiff white boy syndrome.

bars, bars, and more bars....

no not really, but you do need to get used to talking to women again and its the easist place to start. while you have that started have your friends wives try to play matchmaker for you, as someone said earlier women love to do it and they will have access to single girls that you wouldnt.

even if you dont like the girls they refer you to still go out with them and be their friends, you would be amazed how hanging out with one woman as a friend will attract another.....

womens natural instict is to herd with other women, so if another woman is around you it makes you a 'safer' person.

And I am really screwed. Because I can't dance. I have stiff white boy syndrome.

Too bad you weren't born into MY family, eh?

Too bad you weren't born into MY family, eh?


Touche`

I probably would of been better off. I am the poster child for bad dancing. I flail with my elbows a bit and barely move my feet. :(

I expect it is a little like deer hunting. Find out where they hang out. Keep it a secret. Set out some corn and then swoop in. ... Feast or famine. Just when you find one that looks interesting, they suddenly swarm on you and you've got decisions to make. Then you go through a dry spell. Don't worry - just like that, Mr. Wonderful can show up, usually when it is damned inconvenient. Every serious relationship I've ever had showed up when I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. I suspect not being needy is what drags in the bucks. Works just like corn.

Good luck.

I guess that is why you so many deer while driving in your car, but never see one when you are hunting.

I think PQ's advice is pretty good. Determine the type of person you want to be with and hang out where they hang out. Don't look for a needle in a haystack, look for it with other needles.

I still think the best way is to ask your dating or married friends for help. I met my wife through a mutual friend. Women like setting people up. I can tell you right now if one of my single friends asked me for help my wife would be on the case looking for someone for them.

If you are looking for a woman I learned a little trick (but I don't remember where). When you meet a girl (in any circumstance) only ask questions. See how long you can go without making a statement. This gives the illusion you are listening (women love that). I did this in a book store just to see how long I could do it. Here is kind of how it went.

Girl Working at Borders: Can I help you find something?

Me: Can you recommend anything from the Classic section?

Girl: Not really, I'm not into the classics.

Me: Really? What do you like to read?

Girl: Vampire novels.

Me: What interest you about vampire novels?

Girl: Some rambling answer.

Me: Do you have a favorite author?

(now walking to the vampire novels)

Girl: Anne Rice

Me: Other than being about vampires, what kind of novels are they? Love stories? Gothic? Mysteries?

Girl: Some rambling answer

Me: What are some of the other authors in the genre?

Girl: Rambling answer

Me: What are you reading now?

Girl: rambling answer

and on and on. See how it works? By the time we got done I knew everything about her and she didn't even know my name. Heck, I didn't even buy a book.

I am usually the one that rambles....

. See how it works? By the time we got done I knew everything about her and she didn't even know my name. Heck, I didn't even buy a book.

And you knew enough to not ask her out!!

I guess that is why you so many deer while driving in your car, but never see one when you are hunting.

I think PQ's advice is pretty good. Determine the type of person you want to be with and hang out where they hang out. Don't look for a needle in a haystack, look for it with other needles.

I still think the best way is to ask your dating or married friends for help. I met my wife through a mutual friend. Women like setting people up. I can tell you right now if one of my single friends asked me for help my wife would be on the case looking for someone for them.

If you are looking for a woman I learned a little trick (but I don't remember where). When you meet a girl (in any circumstance) only ask questions. See how long you can go without making a statement. This gives the illusion you are listening (women love that). I did this in a book store just to see how long I could do it. Here is kind of how it went.

Girl Working at Borders: Can I help you find something?

Me: Can you recommend anything from the Classic section?

Girl: Not really, I'm not into the classics.

Me: Really? What do you like to read?

Girl: Vampire novels.

Me: What interest you about vampire novels?

Girl: Some rambling answer.

Me: Do you have a favorite author?

(now walking to the vampire novels)

Girl: Anne Rice

Me: Other than being about vampires, what kind of novels are they? Love stories? Gothic? Mysteries?

Girl: Some rambling answer

Me: What are some of the other authors in the genre?

Girl: Rambling answer

Me: What are you reading now?

Girl: rambling answer

and on and on. See how it works? By the time we got done I knew everything about her and she didn't even know my name. Heck, I didn't even buy a book.


40 year old virgin

And you knew enough to not ask her out!!

Well, I'm married. Actually I was doing it as a demonstration for a single friend of mine that was in Borders with me. He was complaining he can't find/meet someone so I showed him how to do it. He's still single because he is afraid to try it. If I wasn't married I would have asked her out. For some reason Goth chicks are kind of attractive.

@TD25er - thanks. I couldn't remember where I saw it, but it does work.

She was an airhead but attractive so even the brainy Kerry would ask her out. Sigh.

I'm a 26 year old male.

I'll worry about finding someone long term in my 30s. If I find someone early I imagine it'll be at church or at school working on my masters.

She was an airhead but attractive so even the brainy Kerry would ask her out. Sigh.

LOL - I guess your intentions dictate the pickiness. I might have gone on a date with her but she wasn't marrying material.

Don't go to bars, for a starter!

I'm no expert but figure out what kind of man you are interested in and go where they hang out. I expect it is a little like deer hunting. Find out where they hang out. Keep it a secret. Set out some corn and then swoop in. <vbg> For someone like me, finding the right kind of guy wouldn't be that hard in Oklahoma. I like the down to earth, sensible type. But you know how it goes. Feast or famine. Just when you find one that looks interesting, they suddenly swarm on you and you've got decisions to make. Then you go through a dry spell. Don't worry - just like that, Mr. Wonderful can show up, usually when it is damned inconvenient. Every serious relationship I've ever had showed up when I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. I suspect not being needy is what drags in the bucks. Works just like corn.

Good luck.



My Mom always said "Meet 'em in a bar, lose 'em in a bar".....

I like your mom!

I still remember when I was introduced to a couple. They were a little rough but seemed nice. To make conversation, I asked where they met and they said they met at the Red Dog. I just didn't see that coming and stumbled around, then blurted out, "What were you doing at the Red Dog!!??" to the girl.

"I worked there. I was a dancer," she said coldly.

I was torn between embarassment, guit for possibly hurting her feelings, and amazement that someone that homely could ever get hired. She looked like a human bulldog with tats. I started to ask her if she knew my sister-in-law (also a RD dancer) but decided to just let it go...

I actually hung out with them on a softball team for about ten years and they really were the salt of the earth. And stayed together, last I heard.

And I am really screwed. Because I can't dance. I have stiff white boy syndrome.

That CRACKS me up because it takes me back several decades (my first school dance in 6th grade...I was a wallflower), in the 1960's we didn't dance...we just "moved" to the music, and more recently (kinda) in the 1980's after my divorce.

I never went to the bars. I preferred the nightclubs instead. There was no way I was about to get out on the dance floors. That is until I had about 3-5 vodka tonics. Man, could I dance then, so I thought. Thanks to some very patient Southern Ladies I learned a few moves and ended up really liking to dance.

It's a man-woman power play. Might mean something or not. Don't be scared. I must say, I was never scared of the "finer" sex. They are complicated but, Fun.. Murph

But when guys lack sex appeal with the ladies they are completely out of it. Then ladies have every right to say, NO!, when asked to dance. Right?

But when guys lack sex appeal with the ladies they are completely out of it. Then ladies have every right to say, NO!, when asked to dance. Right?

A lass retains her right to say nada even if the asker has tremendous appeal.

Some great ideas here, really. Know some folks who met at bars and are still married. But the best idea is to have friends' wives 'set you up'; doesn't have to be 'blind dates,' though. They can have you over for a social at their homes, meet out somewhere, etc.

Another thing: hobbies, sports, going back to night school [often more mature students there]. There are adult coed softball teams that are good places to meet people.

Work place: not for dating who works with you--can be risky if the relationship goes south or is prohibited--but your co-workers may know single women outside of the work place.

BTW, I got a good chuckle out of the 'conversation' at the bookstore scenario! How true it is! "Listening," or appearing to, gets more interest than doing all the talking!

I'm a 26 year old male.

I'll worry about finding someone long term in my 30s. If I find someone early I imagine it'll be at church or at school working on my masters.
I found it easier to find women that I was interested in when I was in my mid to late 30's than my mid to late 20's. By then most of us have most of the extraneous crap of our lives figured out which made it easier to me to figure out who was worth spending time and effort or not.

I found it easier to find women that I was interested in when I was in my mid to late 30's than my mid to late 20's. By then most of us have most of the extraneous crap of our lives figured out which made it easier to me to figure out who was worth spending time and effort or not.

Yup. You know yourself better by that age and what you like and what you can live with. The gloss is not nearly as powerful. You start looking for substance and are mature enough to recognize it.

You can do what I do. Wander around aimlessly and look lost in the grocery store and then ask a girl that catches your eye where the lettuce is or something like that.

Ok, so I have never done that. But it sounded good. :D

LOL!! I tried that Friday while at Wal-Mart, in the toothpaste aisle looking confused with my Crest coupon. It didn't work. But, I ain't no Adonis.

Well apparently I can't spell. Its a monday.

You can do what I do. Wander around aimlessly and look lost in the grocery store and then ask a girl that catches your eye where the lettuce is or something like that.

Ok, so I have never done that. But it sounded good. :D

You're on the right track but you have to keep asking questions. Just one question won't do it. Here is how it goes.

OU Adonis: Do you know where the lettuce is?

Girl: That way in the corner.

OU Adonis: My mom is coming over for dinner. Do you know what kind of salad dressing goes good with lasagna?

Girl: Italian.

OU Adonis: (laughing) You don't know where that is do you?

Girl: It's just down there with the other condiments.

OU Adonis: Wow, you know where everything is. You don't work here do you?

Girl: No, I just shop here.

OU Adonis: Are you sure you don't have a map of this place or something? Let me give you a hard question. Where is the cream cheese? (this question will make her think).

If she interested she'll go with you to verify the cream cheese location. If not, she was probably a lesbian anyhow (just kidding).

I was at Borders once.

Him: Hi. Do you like this author?
Me: Never read him. I was actually waiting for the lady to come back from the back. She is looking for a book for me.
Him: Oh, what is she getting?
Me: Oh, some book on birds. (moving away).
Him: Oh, do you like to watch birds?
Me: Yeah.
Him: So, do you go on birdwalks or are you just interested in watching them from the house?
Me: Oh, just where ever. I wonder where that lady is?
Him: So do you come here very often?
Me: No. Oh, here she comes.
Him: Nice talking to you! I'm here a lot, maybe I will see you next time.
Me: Okay, nice talking to you, too. (walk towards the lady)
The Lady: Is he bothering you? He is here all the time and some women have complained...

True story. A long time ago. Back when I was fetching and single.

So what your saying is you have met Kerry once?


Just kidding. Thats good advice Kerry. Just got to be sure and read the body language so your not being a pest.

Me, I just usually stop at asking with the Lettuce is. Hah!

I was teasing about my experience although it really was true. I think Kerry gave excellent advice. And if she ends up talking all about herself and never asks about you, run.

I was teasing about my experience although it really was true. I think Kerry gave excellent advice. And if she ends up talking all about herself and never asks about you, run.

Sounds like my last 3 girlfriends. I ran, but it was always too late. :D

Most people in crappy relationships had warnings they ignored, assuming they didn't marry within a month before the red flags began flapping in the breeze - of course, that's just a different kind of insanity. <vbg>

Me: Excuse me, but I'm a complet idiot. I've never been grocery shopping before and don't even know where to start. Do you have any advice for someone like me?
She: Bye now.

Maybe it's the hook or maybe the glass eye, but they never fell for that.

OU Adonis,

The next time you are at the grocery store, instead of asking about lettuce, salad dressings and cream cheese, ask the lady if she knows the difference between hamburger and sex?

OU Adonis,

The next time you are at the grocery store, instead of asking about lettuce, salad dressings and cream cheese, ask the lady if she knows the difference between hamburger and sex?

Oh good lord.

If she didn't automatically punch him in the nose or scream for security, I suspect she would be thinking, even if she didn't say it aloud, "With you, there probably isn't all that much difference."

This reminds me of a really bad joke

Guy to a random woman "Hey, want to grab a pizza then go have sex?"

Woman Slaps guy

Guy "Why do you have a problem with pizza?"

Lol!!!

Well Miss Penny, the "only" time I posed that question to a young lady it was to my wife. She answered, "no." So, naturally I asked her if she wanted to go out to lunch?

Well Miss Penny, the "only" time I posed that question to a young lady it was to my wife. She answered, "no." So, naturally I asked her if she wanted to go out to lunch?

I rest my case! :)

Just go "buck wild" sumthan will happen ..Ya know what I mean? Life is a crap shoot. Place your bet.

I was teasing about my experience although it really was true. I think Kerry gave excellent advice. And if she ends up talking all about herself and never asks about you, run.

Pretty funny. BTW - I can't go back to Borders now. Thanks alot.

A woman read a magazine article about where to find a man and she learned that Alaska has 15 men for every woman. Thinking this might be an ideal location to land a man she asked a female friend that lived in Alaska what the odds are that she could find someone one.

Her friend responded: The odds are good, but the goods are odd.

Her friend responded: The odds are good, but the goods are odd.

hahaha.

Oh baby, the goods are odd, everywhere so she might as well work the numbers.