Any ladies in here that would like date or hang out sometime, or go out and do something. You need to be 18 to 35 maybe older pending on how much older. Easy going, laid back would be nice also. I like to stay at home alot and watch tv or movies or just go to the mall and look around. If any ladies are interested in making a new friend or just hanging out give me a shout or pm me. Hope to hear from some of you.
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HHMMM viewed 26 times and noreplys. I guess Iam destined to be a loner and not have any friends I would have thoguht I could have a couple replys to have someone to talk to and hangout with. I just can't put a finger on what it is I am doing wrong that I can't make friends and have some people I can talk to. Well I guess this calls for a drinking session tonight. SIt here bymyself and plastered till I pass out maybe it will chase away all my sorrows fro time being hopefully.

I think that you should introduce yourself to ladies first. What kind of guy you are how you look like. What do you like. How you gonna take her out....... etc...
If you are more vigorous, uploading your photo may good idea too.

Anyway, good luck to ya...


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You might start a profile with Yahoo Personals. If you join, it costs around $100 per year, however you do not have to join to have a profile. Just to answer the ladies profiles. "Icebreakers" are free to respond. I have responded to 45 ads in a week and have had 15 replies. All but three or four positive.

I have two personal ads running on a 100% free sites. I don't see the reason to spend that kind of money on a dating site. I was thinking if the ladies wanted to know anything they would ask me what they wanted to know about me. I wish I could post a photo but my computer is screwed I should have a new one by mon that I can start uploading my pics with. This one right now won't read my usb ports to upload from a my digi cam. I am lucky the thing even turns on and connects to the internet.

"I have two personal ads running on a 100% free sites...... I was thinking if the ladies wanted to know anything they would ask me what they wanted to know about me. I wish I could post a photo but my computer is screwed I should have a new one by mon that I can start uploading my pics with. This one right now won't read my usb ports to upload from a my digi cam. I am lucky the thing even turns on and connects to the internet."

My opinion: You sound like every other guy out there...you like non specific things, you don't have photo, and you ended this thing saying why doesnt anyone like me......

Personally if I was looking there, I would hope for soemthing deeper something to catch my attention, and if you want pics from girls, then provide a pic as well.

^^^ Cool Avatar!

Thats just me I am a basic kind of guy. Anything will make me happy. I haven't been out or on a date in over 6 years. I really don't know what to say. If you would like to read what i have put into my profiles check them here at megafriends.com and mingles.com both are under dirtrider73068 and let me wkat I should change or what to say.

The best advise I can give you is the following.

Be positive. Be truthful. Be charming. Be yourself.

I know how you feel about not having a date in so long. Until recently, I was in a dry spell myself. So, I do not mention that fact in an ad.

What I DO mention is things romantic. The flowers, the affection, things that will sweep them off their feet. That is the charm. Is it true? Yes. It is. But it is also things that charm women. I also mention what I want out of life. I have really gotten far with mentioning my political plans. I will mention hobbies like travel and photography. And this forum (not by name until I get to know them a bit) and that we have made headway to making this city a better place to live.

I never use terms like lonely man, or anything else that might give a sense of negative thought in the mind of the ladies. I know I would be turned off by that if they said it.

Granted, what I say may not work for you. I bet the charm does. I said I have a 25% reply rate, but I calculated it and it is closer to 33%.

I am on metrodate and mingle as well. Those have not worked at all. That is why I recommeded Yahoo or even Match.com. Yes. They cost. Match is twice the price as yahoo and that is why I did not do it. On yahoo I find the women will rarely resond to a man's ad. He must repsond to hers.

I had a woman reply this morning that said something that made sense. She said she is glad it was not "a canned answer provided by yahoo." That tells me why I had little response before. I have no doubt it will be soon when I meet a lady and get back into a good, healthy relationship.

I gave you the recommendation of investing because I have been there and I am tired of not having a good, decent woman by my side who really cares about me. Who will be there for me unconditionally. I will also tell you from experience, you have a great support system in us. We are here for you.

Dirt, I recently went through a very heartbreaking, traumatic experience in my life. I litrally thank God for Patrick and Keith who have supported me through this time. They have encouraged me and coached me. And will continue to do so. Had it not been for the support I have gained here, I would probably still be in a dry spell wondering why I had a hard time finding a healthy relationship. You can come to me (Patrick and Keith will need to offer) at anytime for advise and support.

Just think about what it has done for me. Life is what you make it. Sometimes you must invest time and even money to get the nice things out of it.

So. Take our advise. Think and do what is right. I hope you come out of your dry spell soon. Just knowing it is amost over is the greatest feeling on earth.

I need the advice and help pretty bad, I am going trough a heartbreaker now as it is my wife doesn't care about me anymore but she says she does. So I have decided to try and move on and find somebody that would car bout me and love me for me and not go off adn cheat on me.

I am glad I can help. Also. Take your time. rebound would be a mistake.

Yes rebound is a evil thing. Right now I just want soemone I can talk to and hang out with. Someone I can be around and take my time and not rush it is the last thing I want to do.

The first step you need to take is to do something with your life. I don't mean to be condescending in anyway.

What I'm saying is do something with your time to take your mind off of your situation. Do something you haven't done but always wanted to do. Go back to school, pick up a hobby or two, get in shape, anything.

Then when you have all of the pain out of your system go where the people are. Get active with other singles. Go volunteer your time somewhere. Frequent places where single people are found. Then when you meet someone that catches your eye take your time and get to know them.

Long story short.......you will not find personal happiness in a relationship. You have to find it on your own. A love relationship should accent your life, it shouldn't be a lifeline.

When you have a carfree attitude about love, you quickly notice who is right and who is wrong for you.

You have to be confident in the fact that you can enjoy life being single. You won't be single forever the odds are in your favor. Get out there shake off the pity and live a little. I promise you'll thank me for it later.

Besides its her loss, move on to someone who will treat you right.

That for me will take a long time I am going through a tough hearthache right now and am just looking for someone I cna talk with and hang out with to get out od the house and go do things with.

try going to church?

I think what you need you probably need right now is some type of counseling. Try checking the area churches, many have singles support groups that meet weekly.

In your current state of mind you will scare off a potential love interest. When a person is lonely they tend to suffocate people. You really need to work through the loss of your marriage before you seek a new love. When you are over her you will see what you need to do better in future relationships. You will also see what kind of people you need to steer clear of so you never have to go through this again.

I don't do churches never have. Couseling would be nice if it wasn't so expensive.

Counseling really isnt all that expensive if you just go for counseling....they do have a slide scale payment option. Anyhow, there are support groups anywhere you look, I bet you find a bunch if you search the web.

I have looked before mainly for my depression which is kinda holding me back some and there is nowhere it is done cheap. My ins only pays half cause its a mental thing so I am on my own. I just mainly want a lady to hang out with and talk to more than the relationship aspect of it. If I can get out and keep busy I am alright but when I sit at home from not haveing enough money to do anythign or anybody to go see or talk to is when I start getting bad again. But since I have new pc I can get around the web better so maybe that will help I can play games online, and just look around.

Dirtrider,

I've been reading your posts, I feel for you! - this is what I think, granted, I'm no Dr. Phil, but here goes....

Regarding your marriage, try some free church counseling, self help books (free library) Marriage Encounters, etc.... at least you can say you've given it your best shot. Reach out to others, old friends, other couples, people on this and other boards, we've all been there, relationships are hard!

But, if there is no hope left for your marriage, you'll need to move on. You will have to heal, slowly but surely, so that you will be in the best position to give and receive love and companionship in your future.
Do some soul searching... what do you like, don't like, what makes you happy, how can you make someone else happy? , etc etc. It might take a little time but It will happen, there are so many people just like you who would love to have someone to share life with, hang in there ... But, be ready when it does!

Take some classes, volunteer, work out, be the best you can be ( no, I'm not an Army reqruiter!) do whatever you like to do and you just might meet some nice people in the process.

Take care of yourself - write and let us know how you are doing, even though we haven't met, we still care about you!

Dirtrider,

I deal a lot with divorce since that's a good chunk of what the law firm I work for does. One thing I recommend to most of my clients is counseling. Also, get out and do stuff. I'm no therapist.. not by a very long shot, but it's a tough deal.

I do know that if you're into things taught from a Christian perspective that Crossings does have some divorce workshops/support groups. I think they're out at Hefner Expressway & Memorial. They send us brochures. I'm sure if you call them, they can help you out.

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Here's their website: www.crossingsokc.org

Go to "ministries", then click on "Counseling. "

Here's the link to their Care Series Classes. Divorce Care I might be a good class for you to take, even though you're not at that stage yet.

I have a bunch of stuff Ilike to do but it kinda sucks and is boring when I have nobody to enjoy it with. I have a gas powered r/c truck I can play with but get bored real quick by myself, I have a 200 dollar mountain bike real nice one used it a few times no fun when nobody to ride with or a place to ride, I like to watch movies but would be more fun if I had a woman to hold and cuddle with to watch them with me. I like to go to the mall and walk around and the shops, I kinda like to golf been out once, can get on the course for FREE but never go. Kinda see where I am getting at, there are things I like to do but don't have anybody to enjoy them with or to come along.

I used to really enjoy riding my bike over at Lake Hefner.

I don't recall ever going with someone else to do it. The track was around 9.5 miles around. It's windy as heck, be warned.

(my odometer always read something like 9.6)

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Dirtrider. That is why we are trying to help you. I suggest getting out and enjoying those things you use to enjoy.