Hey, dirtrider, I have a bike too that I ride at Lake Hefner. Like MidTowner said, it is about 10 miles around the lake, and it will give you a work out. Even on a calm day, it seems windy at the lake. There is a specific trail for bicyclists, so it is a safe place to ride.

I have an S-10 pickup that I carry my bike in when I go ride at the lake. You are correct, though, it is no fun riding by yourself. If you have someone to ride with, time goes by much quicker. I'd be more than happy to come by and pick you and your bike up and go to Lake Hefner. Afterwards, we could go get something to snack on. Let me know if you are interested.

That sounds good keith, I live in noble if thats out of hte way I cna mange to fit it in my car and meet you up in the city somewhere. I haven'r riden in a long time I guess I should work out some so I don't run out of breathe. I did ride at a place in norman called sutton wilderness. Its on sonner road north of robisan, it has a bunch of off road trails. It was fun till it was getting overgrown and the sticktights were growing everywhere and I came in with them stuck to my pants and socks so I haven't been back. I liked the off road my bike is made for it for sure it has shocks front and rear, makes for a nice ride.

If you can get your bike up here to the city, then you can park your car at my house, and we can put both bikes in the back of the pickup. I'm sure you would rather have a female companion, however, right now I think you need someone to talk to.

The christian clinic for counseling on 50th near may, charges between 5 and 25 dollars a session if you on their sliding scale option. Knowing people who have been there, they do not preach to you nor care if you arent chrisitan. I am sure there are other centers around that are like that, and some that I know that do slide scale payment options as well.

I think it is a good idea for you to do some activities for friends, and do not think it would be a wise idea to pursue another relationship considering the situation you are in.

Everyone here seems really supportive and a lot of what you need might be accomplished through this. In my dating experience I think it would be best for you to have activites that you enjoy doing on your own as well as having some to enjoy with a companion. It's a little unnerving to meet someone who wants to do everything with you and can not enjoy themselves when you arent there. Of course, that's my opinion...

Zoedith,
I know what you are saying but I am not really hunting for a relationship, I am trying to find a friend is all I am wanting. I would like to have both male and female friends to talk to and hang out with, there has to be no relationship with a female other than just to have her to talk to and sit with thats all. Right now I want campanionship, the sex and love can be put on the back burner and wait.

Dirt. I can understand why you would not get back into circulation yet.

When I split with my last woman, it had been somewhat short but intense. I found out some things about her that were shocking, and made the decision not to try and repair the relationship. We had been together for several months.

I went to the personals, cruised them and have recently met some women on line I am quite interested in, and some that I will be happy with close friendship.

I gave the advise to invest in one of the more higher end services like Yahoo. It can work. I wrote an ad that has attracted more women than I ever imagined. They are cawling out of the woodwork, to coin a phrase. In fact, after one week, I have stopped replying to new ones and am setting my eyes on one of about five or six.

You could place the ad and tell them you do not want a serious romance, just a lady hang buddy. If she acts too serious, just explain you have come off a bad marriage and want to recover first. Most will understand, but you will get that occasional wallflower that will try and cling. I have one of those. (hey, I can pass her ad to you, lol).

I personally have tried the church singles group, and at first it worked, however they changed too much and started treating me like a lepar. It may work for you. Explore the options. Plus, remember, while out main focus is to be a sounding board for the improvement of Oklahoma City, we are also a community of friends (an exception or two in my case) who support each other, pray for each other, and even if it is by email, comfort each other. Take advantage of it. It will help. Trust me. I am walking proof.

I have two persoanl ads explaining my need for friendship only and still no replys. I have seen yahoo's and have a ad on there but am not willing ot spendthe money to find a friend when they can be found for free anywhere. Its just being able to find them is all. If they are crawling out of the woodwork then how am I not able to find them. My wife has I guess meet a coworker in a new friendship adn she has a sister I am trying to hook up with as friends, she sounds nice but what puzzles me the most is that the woman I do meet or see pics of me say "oh he is cute" but then I don't ever get to meet them or be friends with them. Thats where I get the what am I doing wrong question. I ama nice guy easy going and very laid back.

Dating for guys is different for each guy. Some people achieve relationships without even trying, while others go years without a date. I personally think its one of things that if you try too hard. It can be the equivalent of having body odor. I think you need to be causual in your approach and don't sweat it if you get rejected.

I would like for you to check out this website www.askmen.com

This site is more or less a cosmo for guys. It gives you tips on dating and practically every other aspect of a guys life. Some of the articles are out in leftfield; however, I have found a lot of helpful tips.

Dating is one of those things to where persistence pays off. Just simply because if you pay attention to what works and what doesn't. You will be successful.

Wait a second... you're trying to hook up with your soon-to-be ex's sister? Dude... no. That can't be good.

Also, I will tell you something... If you describe yourself as a "nice, guy, easy going, laid back", you're going to come off as a bit of a wimp. It's my experience that unless you're just damned lucky with relationships, this attitude will not get you very far. Many women will tell you that they just want a "nice" guy. Complete, total, utter BS. They want guys that are nice to them, treat them with respect, etc. (generally speaking), but they also in general want a fella that is not another one of their girlfriends.

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No its not my stbx sister, its my stbx's coworkers sister. And I keep saying I am not trying to hook up for a relationship, all I am wanting from a female is friendship a companion somebody I can talk too and hangout with if a more serious relationship looks to be in the future then so be it, if not then I will have gained a friend. I keep saying that all I want is a friend to be with, male or female more female than anything. I think if I have a female friend maybe I can get her side of veiw and help as to what to do.

Let's see, his wife met a coworker, and the coworker has a sister, and he is trying to hook up with her.

Where did you get the idea he was going out with the wife's sister? You didn't read the post carefully, did you...dude?

Guess he didn't or just misunderstood it, common mistake no big deal for me, I do it all the time.