How do you quit so fast?

Wow, I had not checkd this in a few days. I'll give you all the update. I told her to give me the key to the apartment or give it to the landlord. Since then I have changed the lock. She sent me a text couple days ago, telling me how great this new guy is, blah blah blah. Trying to make me jealous and saying things that would piss me off and get me to lash out. I simply told her, "look, I know he is a great guy, I have friends that know the family." My problem is not with him, its you. "you've been together what a month now? so in another month you will be asking, begging for a ring." When this relationship fails, it will not be his fault but yours. Just like you ruined our relationship you will ruin this one. She responded with I was looking for someone new for a llllooooonnnnnggggg time. I said well you found one now time to screw it up. she continued to try to piss me off, then she took the wrong turn. She text my father, haha that was a bad idea. I'll paraphrase, basically it was "get out of my sons life, you and your evil words about him, our family, and lifestyle were very far out of line, I pray someday it doesn't get turned about around on you. Now stop bothering us." Haven't heard from here since. She would refuse to talk to me face to face.
While I hope for her well being, i do wander off and hope something emotionally happens to her (ie boyfriend cheats on her). I've moved on, not saying I've found someone new, just moving on. She has lost her chance, If she trys to be nice to me or come back into my life it better not be for at least 2 months. Even then I might not talk to her. So i'm enjoying this time, cooking, building stuff, kiteboarding (almost), and tryin not to drink. Thanks again for all the help.

Oh yeah, last sunday her parents were in my fav after church establishment. She had said how much her parents hated me now, and thought I was horrible. Funny thing was her dad comes over says hello, we talk for about 20 mins, he apologizes to me for his daughters actions!!!! I bought his and his wifes breakfast but not their daughters.

Dude....STOP TALKING TO HER.

Don't reply to emails. Don't reply to texts. Don't answer her calls. Don't initiate any of them either.

Just stop. You're giving attention to an attention whore.



An old saying comes to mind, "You deserve what you tolerate".

Oh I haven't talked to her since sunday. She sent me a text a minute ago, but I just deleted it. I have more important things to do in life than listen to someone like that. Waste of me time and energy.

Listen to Oh Gawd.

It is not only that you have more important things to do - it is that it is the proper response and the only emotionally healthy one. DON'T ENGAGE!!!

Chef, no disrespect meant.
From a bystander perspective - providing a multi-day update on some many points and savoring delivery of that many details is not moving on, at least not very far and not very fast. you're on hold Chef, your own words scream out that if she is coming around - "it better not be for at least 2 months."

There's a saying that when you jump off the bus, it is the bus that pulls away.

Yet it's also true that buses run the same route every day and you can sit and wait and jump back on later.

If you're ready to consider alternative modes of transport so to speak, please do yourself a huge favor and stand up, dust that bus stop bench dust off your shorts, and take a stroll, preferably at a 90 degree angle to the regular path of the bus.

Luck to you. Oh, and how's the dog stand coming?

the hot dog stand is on permant hold for now. At least till august sadly. Had other things come up that are standing in the way.

Yeah after posting the "2 months" quote I thought better of it. While I am a fan of eating at the same places, I dont like to get on the same bus again. Espically when the bus forgot to pick me up.

But I do need to find another bus, bc these gas prices are killing me haha

Ain't that the truth........

Hello everyone. This is my first post and well here I am. After reading ChefDavies soap opra, I kind of know where he is at. I am dealing with a similar experience with my seperated wife. It is very hard to let go and it's even harder to stay together. But you will reach a point where you have had enough and move on as quickly as possible. My advice; RUN!!!!!!!!!! She sounds like a spoiled brat not sure of what she wants. So stop being her entertainment. How many women are in Oklahoma? Ah, a butt tone! So kick her to the curb and pretend she doesn't exist. Why? Two reasons. It will drive her crazy because she has lost control and two, do it for your sanity. Peace Out!

Viper, is has it coming back to her. Sometime somewhere. As for me I went to the lake sunday and just hung out by myself and did some self refection. I realized, I wouldn't recongize her voice if she called, I could walk by her in a store and not see her (which happened). I realized it wasn't her that I was in love it, it was the feeling. Now that the feeling is gone, for her, its time for someone else. So I borrow this line from my favorite group, "HEY HEY HEY LADIES!!!!" haha Take care everyone.