There's nothing terribly novel about this. Parental alienation syndrome is quite real, and judges have used this sort of behavior to transfer custody many times over the years. If you have kids and are separated from the other parent, it is in the best interests of your children to work together to raise them, to communicate about what's in their best interests and to not badmouth the other parent. Also, it appears mom ignored several court orders and that dad wasn't a psychopath. That'll lose you custody just about every time.