I don't think men are threatened by a women that is smart or a professional, I think women are threatened to let their guards down when they are professionals. This is my way of thinking if I threaten a man because I am smart or have been married as one put it with baggage ( kids) then that man is not a man I want in my life.l have and will never again settle for the one I can just live with. I was always told dont settle for the one you can live with, choose the one you can't live without. Now on the other aspect of things, If a man sees my daughter or my ex as baggage by all means I can carry my own suitcase. I dont need him to fix anything, nothing in my life is broken. I dont want him to take care of me. I don't need a man, but if I want someone in my life that is a bigger compliment than me ever needing him. Babies need their moms, Wanting something is much better than needing them. As most of the married people know, You always understand why relationships dont work out. No one can tell me that they just dont understand why they have not found the right person. All we have to do is look inside, ask ourselves 3 major heart wrenching questions. Who am I ? What do I stand for? and what image or what do I show of myself? If you are happy with the answers you get I am sure you will find everything you are looking for. I am a professional woman that has "baggage" I am very proud of and I wont settle for a man that looks at my daughter as that. As far as ex's goes well that aint baggage that is the past and it is going to stay that way. What I do in the future has no bearings on what he does. I will always have that past, but my future is way brighter now. Keep a smile on your face, stop looking so hard and love will be there to find you.

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"You can't fix stupid it's foreverrrrrrrrr!!" Ron White