I applaud you bailjumper for being honest!
The only thing I dont agree with is the belief that "something is wrong" with someone 35 and over and never married. I have chose this. I personally have not meet an honest, good man that I would settle down with. I am not a troll, pyshco, or loser by any stretch of the means. I have many friends that have been caught up in the lies of a player also. Why would I choose to marry one of these players?I have a great career, good outlook on life in general and thankly common sense. You freely admit your past, how many other men do you think do this? Plenty. Women too. That is why most of us are single and over 35! Getting caught up in lies of another. Not that anything is wrong with us some of us, just have good sense. I do not accept lies or drama and will not put up with it in my life.
So finding a good decent man is exhausting especially when they are dating the strippers, emotionally unavailable or just flat out players, so they then become jaded on marriage and commitment.