I don't think any of us were meant to be single for the rest of our lives, some actually enjoy being single and some just don't know where to look and of course, there's ones like me....that have managed to have a life that can't easily be changed to suit just any man. Face it, to find someone exactly like what we are looking for is like getting struck by lightening, the best we can hope for is that we find someone that can fit into your life, well...if your over 30 and somewhat settled, such as have children, a home you love, prefer your side of town, etc. then it's really hard to find that someone that will not expect you to move out of your home and into his/hers, conflicts in how you both raise children. People with children are really better off with someone that doesn't have any and wants to take the role and a person who owns their own home is better off with someone living in an apartment they may not have the credit to own a home. I've noticed in some of these sites that people are asking for "no games", if someone can explain this to me, I would love it. I guess if someone is dragging out a relationship, talking of marriage, but finding every excuse in the world not to get married, instead of seeing it as just wanting to know the person more, I guess it could be called a game, but if the other is continuing to push the relationship, wouldn't the other be a player in this so called "game"? Or better yet, why don't I see any posts that say "I prefer to play games" or "I'm into games". Just wondering. I guess what I'm trying to say is that people need to take a deep look into who they are themselves, then post something realistic, then people may start becoming possibilities, in our brains, we still live in a Stepford Society, but our day-to-day living reveals much different.