Thunder,

I really don't know where you've been reading some of these things, but personality development in cats, as in dogs, is more a trait of their breed, and of course, the environment in which it is being raised. We have a male and female cat (mixed "domestic shorthair" and both from shelters), both ten years old, in addition to our 3 female dogs.

When the cats were kittens they were as playful as any kittens I've ever seen. Still are, to an extent. The female cat is about the friendliest cat I've ever met, and has never met a stranger.

Even folks who come to visit my house are astounded at what a friendly cat she is. She'd rather be in the company of people, greeting them all with confidence and a friendly meow, than be off by herself somewhere. In our household, it's the male cat who is aloof and stand-offish, although very sweet to those he knows well.

I'm not going to be like others and judge you for not knowing the kitten's sex ahead of time, but I will join those in admonishing you for wishing to get rid of the cat just because "she's a she." In another thread, I provided you with a web link to Best Friends of Shelter Pets OKC, where you can find low-cost spaying/neutering services. The service is provided through their SNAP program (Spay/Neuter Assistance Program). You can get her spayed for only $10. The web link is: Spay / Neuter Assistance Oklahoma

I know you have a vet that you like, but I'm certain your vet would not at all be offended if you took Smokey to the SNAP program for her spaying, if you qualify. Most vets are very well aware of the program and are happy to know it is being utilized.

I strongly suggest you get over what prejudice you think you might have about the sex of this cat, and do the right thing for this animal by contacting Best Friends, getting HER spayed, continuing to offer this cat (regardless of her sex) a loving, well-balanced home, since that was your intent in adopting this animal in the first place.