All I can add is that your perspective changes as you get older. I think it gets easier. I don't know how long you were in the relationship that ended last year but I'd give myself a couple of years to have things back to normal, financially and otherwise. I bet you were smart to kind of take it easy and not be too much of a jerk about the whole thing. If you are young enough, most "things" can be replaced. You'll sure want back time wasted fussing over stuff, though. Doesn't sound like there were kids so chances are, no matter what, you are better off than you were, say, a year and a half ago. Congrats!